The Erotic Mind continued

Continuing on from my previous post on Jack Morin's excellent book, 'The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment'.

Today I was reading about how important it is to fully accept our erotic thoughts; even though this is likely to reveal our innermost conflicts, eccentricities and unresolved emotional wounds. We fear our erotic thoughts because they make us feel 'naked' and we're afraid of being judged as 'bad' or 'abnormal' by others.

However, there is nothing to say that we have to tell anybody else what they are - ever - or we can choose to tell them to our partner when we become comfortable with them.

We're scared to accept our erotic thoughts, because we're afraid that if we do so, we'll be compelled to act them out and harm others or ourselves as a consequence of this. The truth is the opposite though - people who accept their erotic thoughts are unlikely to harm others. Like everything else about ourselves we fear, the adage, 'What we resist persists, what we accept dissolves' applies.

Self-acceptance and the willingness to suspend judgement, not only gives us the freedom to enjoy fantasy scenarios in the sanctuary of our own minds - fantasies that we may never want to experience in real-life - it is also a key to sexual self-discovery and the resultant enjoyment of more peak sexual experiences.

I'll talk about this more next time.