Is Female Masturbation Evil?

I'm not clear why masturbation is still seen as wrong by religious orders. I realise the story of Onan in the Bible is used to condemn masturbation and, by the Catholic Church, sex without procreation. [Which to me smacks of a supposedly loving and merciful god killing two people for having independent thought.] However, biblical scholars view the killing of the two brothers Onan and Er to be an eponymous etiological myth - i.e. it didn't really happen as described, but is really meant to allude to the dying out of a clan. I'm no biblical scholar, but that to me rules out the connection between Onan and masturbation.

I'm not keen on the word evil, as I believe that all human actions are performed in an attempt to meet universal human needs (e.g. love, autonomy, independence, trust, honesty, etc. - for a full list, I overwhelmingly recommend the life-changing book Non-violent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg Ph.D.); however, the strategy used to try and meet those needs may be tragic. For clarity, I'm not condoning anything that harms people (murder, rape, theft, etc.), I'm simply saying that I don't think labelling these actions as evil is helpful. I realise this is a radical way of viewing the world, so if you're interested, I recommend reading Rosenberg's book (above).

So, coming from this angle, we can simply ask, "Is masturbation harmful to me?"

Let's take a look:

Does masturbation cause physical harm?
No.
Contrary to popular myth, masturbation does not make you go blind or insane, cause acne, or make hairs grow on the palms of your hands.
In reality, the opposite is true - masturbation is physically good for you. It improves immunity, increases circulation, helps you to relax, and releases feel-good hormones into the bloodstream.

Does masturbation give rise to sexually transmitted diseases?
No.
Masturbation is the safest form of sex. You can't transmit any kind of STD to yourself from masturbation, unless you're already infected. For example, if you have a cold sore on your mouth (oral herpes), don't touch it and then masturbate without washing your hands first, as you'll give yourself genital herpes (for the same reason, don't give your partner oral sex if you have a cold sore).
You also can't get pregnant from masturbation, which makes me wonder why it isn't included in all of the sex education programs.

Will masturbation prevent you from enjoying sex?
No.
Masturbation can help you to enjoy sex more; the more you learn about what turns you on and what doesn't, the easier it'll be to convey to your partner what you do and don't like. Meaning, the more you understand what makes you come (and, just as importantly, what prevents you from coming); the more likely you are to orgasm.

Is masturbation harmful to anyone else?
Unless you're masturbating in front of a minor, or inflicting the act upon an unwilling adult viewer, we can't see how it can be harmful to anyone else.

Female Maturbation: It feels good and it's good for us.

A lot of people still wonder, ‘If masturbation feels so good, can it really be bad for me?’ When really they should be asking, ‘As masturbation feels so good, can it also be good for me?’

The answer to the second question is a resounding ‘Yes’. [The answer to the first question is, of course, a resounding ‘no’.]

The old, false beliefs that masturbation makes you blind, mad, insensitive, insane or lethargic; can be replaced with these truthful pluses of masturbation. Masturbation is good for you; it makes you skin great and benefits your overall health. It improves your circulation, boosts your immune system and slaps a big smile on your face. It can be a wonderful way to unwind and relax and release stored-up tension. It’s also the safest form of sex; you can’t get pregnant or acquire a sexually transmitted disease from it.

With masturbation we can express love for ourselves. If a part of yourself recoils at the thought of loving yourself, because it’s considered bad in some way; realise that you can’t love anybody else until you have learnt to love yourself first (how can you if you’ve never experienced what it feels like). True. Additionally, ask yourself why it is okay to love other people, but not yourself? Let me clear-up a common misconception around self-love. People who commit heinous crimes are not those who love themselves too much; when people are referring to people who ‘love themselves too much’, they don’t mean true self-love; what they’re actually referring to are the personality traits (bragging, conceit, etc), which manifest in an attempt to cover-up self-hate. These people hate themselves because they have not learned to love themselves. They don’t love themselves because they’ve been told from an early age that to do so is evil, or they’ve never experienced love from parents who were also caught-up in the trap of believing that self-love is wrong.

Masturbation can help raise our self-esteem, by allowing us to explore and accept our bodies. Self-esteem is another positive character trait that has been given a negative press. People with high self-esteem (definition: feeling competent to live and worthy of living), are not the murderers, rapists and criminals of this world. They value their own lives too much; and because they value their own lives, they are able to value the lives of others. Plus, they’re too busy getting on with their own lives to mess it up by committing a crime. Self-esteem is essential to happiness and self-fulfilment and whilst it is not the focus of this blog, I’m made up that masturbation has a nurturing part to play in building self-esteem.

So, now you know. Masturbation not only feels good; it’s also good for us.